Wow, I can’t believe what this blog has done for me.I wrote my thoughts and emotions on this blog recently primary because writing was a way of dealing with the pain. And it helped me a lot!
But now, I’m discovering another benefit of this blog – reconnecting with my EX’s! They are not that many, but I think I would celebrate this year as Personal Year of the Ex’s!
Weird, but somehow my ex’s have made significant parts in my life during this year (and the year isn’t over yet!). Let’s start the roll call.
EX #1
First off, my first “official” girlfriend and I are friends again. We were together for almost 3 years in high school (on and off), but I had someone else in 4th year. And after graduation, we lost contact but I can’t remember if we were angry or not. Of course, I’ve heard stories about her (Iloilo is so small!) and she was in my Friendster since the Jurassic Age, but it was only last week that we reconnected. And yes, it was partly because of my recent break up. And we’re going on a friendly date tomorrow.
EX #2
Next is someone who changed my life forever, especially in the more than one year that we lived together. The love was something else, and so was the break up. It was the ugliest break up I’ve had, and we were angry years after the break up.Three years of anger and pain, with no communication whatsoever (though I made efforts to reconnect and say sorry – but hey, it doesn’t mean I’m the guilty party hehehe), then finally I received a text last August- a text where as if nothing happend, as if it was just yesterday. And I called, and we talked the whole night. And we are friends again.
EX #3
Another one got married. It was a short relationship, but I truly loved her. She was the first one that I dated the traditional way.
EX #4
This ex got separated from her husband this year. She was my first ex to walk the aisle, with me watching and wondering if I should be the one waiting for her in that altar. And no, I am not the reason she separated with her husband, at least not this time. wink*wink
EX #5
This year, this ex finally moved on. We parted ways about two years ago, and I guess she was hoping of a reconcilliation. Until she met my most recent ex – and she moved on. And now, we are truly friends and travel mates.
EX #6
Oh well, my most recent ex. You know our story, read the 5 previous post.
For my ex’s who were not inlcuded here, it doesn’t mean you are not significant. Maybe nothing significant happened this year between us, but nonetheless, you are part of my Personal Year of the Ex’s hehehe
And I would like to clarify, I am not in the hobby of collecting ex’s. I was just previleged enough to meet all these great people, and stupid enough to let them go.
Are there any possibility of reconcilliation? I can’t speak for them of course, but on my side, I previously swore never to second chances. I don’t give up on a relationship unless it’s totally over, so why would I go back to the ones that are totally over?
Having been exposed to the envionmental concepts of the 3R’s (Reduce, Reuse, Recycle), I’m tempted to apply the same with love. Should I recycle a failed romance? Nah, we only recycle renewable and non renewable resources, love is perpetual – no need for recycling.
Friendships with ex’s, yes. Second chances, no. There are 6 billion people out there, even the the most promiscous can’t take even 1 percent.
I just hope I won’t eat my words someday.
