I am not Superman

I do have feelings. I do feel the pain. Why are you doing this to me?

You asked for space, I gave you the freedom to explore and know yourself. And you found someone new in two weeks time.

I’m trying to move on, without you, hopefully. But you insists on us being friends. And as if that wasn’t painful enough, I am now “friends” with your new boy friend (strange as it may sound, I don’t understand why am I in such position as I am now.)

And the worst part, every time you have your LQ, I would mediate for the two of you. Imploring you to take his call, or him answering your text. Stupid me, last time I checked, I wasn’t as stupid. I don’t know what happened between then and now that I’ve changed so much, and sadly for the worst. Maybe it is because of the last night we spent together? Oh, I remember that night so well. Was it a sad goodbye? That part, I couldn’t remember.

Tonight, I finally had the courage to tell you that I am still in pain. And I told him too, your new boy friend. I am tired. This stupidity must come to an end. I spent more call and text loads fixing your (you and your new boy friend) relationship than that I spent fixing ours.

I’m not sure if you both understand my pain, but I doubt it. You are both preoccupied with the troubles of your new relationship. So, I am writing this blog, to let you know – just in case you remember to check out this blog – IT IS OVER.

Good luck and good bye. Let me live my freedom.

I never knew it could be this painful…

What is more painful, letting go of someone you love OR when someone you love found someone else after you let him/ her go?

Do you believe in the 3-month rule? The one that says you should wait for at least 3 months after break up before you enter another relationship? I first heard of it in the movie “One more chance” (reminder to self: ask royalties from Star Cinema for featuring my story in that movie witout my consent. Feeling John Loyd Cruz haha).

Do you agree? Let me know what you think by writing a comment. Please?

For me, at first I thought the rule is absurd. But then, when you are the one who’s ex found someone new in two weeks time, shucks! It hurts man! Big time!

Indeed, it is very painful when he/she found someone new in such a short span of time. Was he or she scouting for someone to replace you when you were still together? I think the 3 month rule is the minimum courtesy that you can afford to an ex, no matter how nasty the break up or who’s fault was it.

You might ask, how about if you really found someone who you truly love? Should you wait for 3 months in consideration of an ex? Oh well, why not use the time to know the other person? Three months is not that long, before you know it, you already know well your new partner and you are ready for a new relationship without hurting further an ex.

So what would you do if you are in the position of being replaced right after a break up? It’s ok to feel the pain, to grieve a bit but there  is one thing I have discovered to cope with the pain: celebrate the freedom.

A break up, being not definite for most times as there is always the chance of a reconciliation, is not entirely freedom. After the break up, I still feel guilty dating someone else as I don’t want to be blamed of the one to first give up on a relationship.

But, when your ex has someone new, that’s closure! You’re a a free man now. After the pain, celebrate your new found lease on life and love.

Life is too short to mourn on a lost love, no matter how great it is. Inuman na!

(Do you want to know my story? Watch out for the next post. This is therapeutic hehe)